So I came running to this site after a large ranting debate in class about psychology and relationships. The things I heard in that class…I officially now know…we as the human race have a long way to go when it comes to acceptance!
Wouldn’t you know it… interracial dating came up and the room got heated.
I mean it was intense!
And wouldn’t you know it…once again...ONE..1…Word…started it all.
So let me just recap some of the things that the professor said to lead to this debate in which people walked out or stood up and got angry.
Professor: So how far you feel the U.S. has gotten over just the span of 25 years of interracial relationships?
Class as a group: Far….blah blah blah
Professor: Raise your hand if you are or have been in an interracial relationship?
Class: Good 50/50
Professor: So what do you feel are factors to wanting to initiate into that kind of relationship despite public opinion?
Majority of Class: Attraction..Emotions….Relationship..etc
Black Girl #1: I feel its different for women of color. The “white woman is prized” so naturally she gets more involved in mixed relationships. I think for black women the guy has to be willing to date African women.
Class + Me: WTF??? o.o…
1 minute later…..
Black Girl #2: Willing? What does that mean? You act as if Black women settle or have no choice but to accept whats given?
Me: =.= (Sweat Drop)
I mean omg! It was intense. Everybody was talking about white and black like that’s the only mix out there. I was looking at them as a group of future psychologist with concern. For people so smart….they dumb-ed themselves down with their closed mindedness. This debate spiraled out of control to another subject. It went from this to talking about the “one drop rule” (One drop – if you have one drop of black in you…you are black) This same girl went and attacked the black man for ‘abandoning’ black women.
But it got disgusting! I never met someone who was racist against their own race! Like how is that possible! This one white dude (so nice of a person/great guy friend!) said his girlfriend is black from Senegal, Africa. He said he was attracted to her when he saw her come into the room. The girl just attacked him…saying outrageous things about him….like he has a fetish..he probably is rejected by the white woman….etc. I mean his girlfriend is the first girlfriend he ever dated outside his own race.
Then there was an Asian guy speaking but he made the mistake of answering a question with….yes my girlfriends are all Asian. He ruined it…..no fight….ding ding ding….white flag….sigh…
White girls banded together but they gave some good arguments and some really…racist ones but it wasn’t enough. They got walked all over needless to say.
Hispanic women joined the Black women in the argument…1 Hispanic guy was like me…we just stayed quiet.
Watching all of this I said nothing and tried my best to see why am I angry over words that I personally have seen to be untrue? Why is everyone else angry about it? This started as a nice conversation and it got so…disgusting in a matter of one word. Willing….
I will forever stand by the belief that there are things that happen in this world that is beyond human control. You can prepare for it but it still is going to happen. I believe attraction and love is one of them. You can’t help how you feel…you can make a choice to act on it though. So why as people of the human race are we forever….attacking those over issues beyond control? More importantly why do other people care who you date anyway?
I have come to the conclusion that we in America have deep wounds and internal hurt that seems to be passing on from generation to generation. This hurt is manifesting into anger and prejudice….to nonsense. Some of us are breaking from this…we accept the past…learn from it…move on. Others seem to be just stuck and continue the cycle of hurt by hurting others. But that’s it. I just had to share this!
Something to laugh at though….
Best Friend: (Whispers) “Girl you should make them hate you by telling them your last boyfriend was Asian.”
Me: Raises hand…teacher quiets the class down….”Just a point to throw out there….my boyfriend is Asian.”
Class: looks at me stankly….=.= (secretly saying…”STFU hoe!”) They start arguing again like I said nothing.
Me: (whispers to my Bestie) Nope! i’ll just keep throwing society in for a loop by continuing to date whoever I like. I like Duck Dynasty…My husband is going to be a Redneck I think.
Best Friend: O.@